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jaybird2001wi

Howdy all. I have a question for you all. I had a "lady friend" who I went to UW-Whitewater with and she and I got along great in class and even hung out at the bars and I can not stop thinking about her, even when it has been 2 years since she broke off her engagement with her cheating fiance. It has been a couple years since I last seen her or talked to her, is it a good idea to try to track her down?

I know this seems like a "Dear Abbey" type of post, but it seems like she could have been the one that got away.

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Definitely go for it. What's the worse thing that could happen? Even if you guys remain just friends that's not a bad thing. Otherwise you could spend many sleepless nights thinking about what could have been.
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My only regret in my life is not having the guts to chase the correct woman at the proper time... go for it dude.

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It all depends on how hard she would be to track down. If you have her email address or phone number you can always drop a line and say I ran across your email address/number and "haven't heard from you in awhile and just seeing how you have been, etc." However, if it would be hard to track her down, I wouldn't suggest contacting her.
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The only contact info I have of her is a cell phone number from a couple years ago that she wrote in my notebook. I don't even know if it works anymore and I could rummage through all of my college notebooks to try to find the thing.
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College you say . . . any chance you could just use facebook. Seems like the easiest way of contacting someone out of the blue and not seeming overly creepy! Of course it all depends on if that's an option.

 

Just my 2 cents.

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is it a good idea to try to track her down?

 

I use the internet to track girls down all the time. I'm doing it right now.

 

Sorry, I couldn't resist.

 

In all seriousness, go for it if you want, but two years is a long time. You never know how people are going to react after being "tracked down". Some people might get freaked out by that.

 

If possible find a mutual friend and contact that person and see if they will act as a intermediary. That might help if she doesn't want to reconnect or whatever. She certainly has a "new" life, so be respectful of that.

 

It's possible that you've built her up in your mind as "the one, so you might be setting yourself up for disappointment.

 

Just things to keep in mind.

20Fry : April 2006 - March 2012
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If the number still works call her and say something along the lines of "Hey i was cleaning out some of my school stuff and i came across your number, Its been awhile since we have talked and i wanted to drop you a line and see what you have been up to..." Of course you dont need to use that directly but you get the idea. Leave it open ended. Leave it up to her to call you back, play it slow, maybe talk to her on the phone a couple times before you suggest getting together, unless she seems very receptive the first time you talk to her again.

 

Like it has been said before, you may have felt you two were pretty good friends or close but she may have felt you were more of an aquaintance.

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all right off topic, but this pickup line i always threatened my friends that i would use but have to yet.

 

to girl " how many pounds does a walrus weigh"

girl not sure

me enough to break the ice, hi i am pat

 

i think it may be the worse of all time.

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UW-Madison has an online alumni directory, where you can get some contact information (sometimes just a parents' address). If UW-Whitewater has a similar thing, I'd try that.

 

Or kick it new-school and try Facebook.

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Jaybird-

 

There are things in life you cannot control, this is not one of them. Get it done, if it matters to you, find this girl and at least know if there was a chance or not.

 

"What if" is a relentless adversary...go man!

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In the end, you tend to regret the things you don't do. So I say to go for it, but like several other people have said, just know there's a line. If you were pretty good friends, odds are it won't be creepy to even just say you tracked her down to reconnect. I've reconnected with people from my past that I hadn't talked to in a long time and I'm glad I did. However those were once solid friendships, that are now at least still friendships.

 

Easy options do include Facebook and MySpace.

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Hmm...

 

An interesting predicament.

 

How about you give me her phone number and I'll find out if she's good enough for you?http://forum.brewerfan.net/images/smilies/wink.gif

 

In all seriousness, facebook / MySpace are the best routes here, especially if the phone # doesn't work.

 

But again...

 

Stalking = bad

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You can find pretty much anyone on the internet. Try Yellowbook or something. You'd be surprised.

 

And stalking just means you care.

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I use the internet to track girls down all the time. I'm doing it right now.

 

 

20fry, there something I need to tell you......I'm Chris Hansen with Dateline NBC, and we're doing a story on people who solicit teens online for sex.....

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